Even though Kaspar-Williams had made their gender identity clear in their medical records, nurses continued to address them incorrectly during their hospital stay. After Hudson’s birth, Kaspar-Williams has become an advocate for acknowledging that childbirth should not be automatically linked to gender identity.

Reflecting on their experience of being misgendered, Kaspar-Williams emphasized the need to decouple the ideas of womanhood and motherhood. Speaking with the New York Post, they expressed discomfort with being referred to as “mom” despite marking “male” on medical paperwork.

“No one can ever really know whether having children is possible until you try — being born with a uterus doesn’t make conceiving or carrying a certainty,” Kaspar-Williams shared. “That’s why it’s so important that we stop defining ‘womanhood’ in terms of ‘motherhood,’ because it’s a false equivalency that all women can become mothers, that all mothers carry their children, or that all people who carry children are mothers.”

By choosing to embark on the journey of pregnancy after separating the physical act from societal gender norms, Kaspar-Williams’ story sheds light on the complexities of identity and underscores the importance of respecting how individuals define themselves.